Friday, May 21, 2010

Why I deleted my Facebook account

It's been exactly one week since I deleted my Facebook account. I had been thinking about doing it for awhile but I finally took the plunge last Friday. I have to admit that it was a little scary but so far I don't have any regrets. In fact, it has been a little liberating. Here are a few of my reasons for saying goodbye to wall posts and pokes:
  • I have run into a few friends from my past recently and we had nothing to talk about! I already knew how many kids they had and they already knew where I lived and my husband's name. What should have been an exciting meeting with an old friend turned out to be awkward and boring. I realize this can be a consequence of blogging but I'm not done. :)
  • This hurts my pride a little to say but I used the word friend very loosely on Facebook. There is no way I have 342 people whom I can call true friends.
  • I shouldn't care what the people I barely knew in high school are up to. Shouldn't is the key word there.
  • I thought a lot about what I would be missing if I got off Facebook. I was worried I would be "out of the loop" but I finally came to the conclusion that I would survive. I am confidant that I will eventually find out about all my newly pregnant friends.
  • I don't think I was addicted to Facebook but it's easy to spend a lot of time browsing pictures. I have been on the computer much less this week.
  • Facebook brought unnecessary drama into my life. I would worry that so-in-so would get offended if I denied her friend request because I barely knew her or I would find out what a messy and inconsiderate husband my friend had through her status updates. These are not things I want to be worrying and thinking about.
  • Status updates are interesting. I like them when they are funny or interesting but there is a fine line between being informative and sounding conceited.
Don't get me wrong, Facebook is a lot of fun. Do I think less of people who are on Facebook and do I think everyone should delete their account? Nope. Not at all. This was a personal decision for me and in no way am I advocating the distinction of social media.

What are your thoughts on the subject?


Natalie Smith said...

Good for you girlie!

me said...

My thoughts are its easy to get sucked in to the cyber world and its good to get out! I used to spend hours looking at ppls blogs. Did I really need to know what was going on with everybody? NO! Once i figured that out and started to focus on what/who really matters (my family) its been awesome. I check blogs occasionally but i dont care cuz I have a different outlook now.

Anonymous said...

I just deleted it! Deleted myspace and twitter a month ago! Privacy concerns, tmi, several reasons. You know what I love, when you uninstall apps from your comp they sometimes ask why you are stopping using the program.
When you delete your facebook account they don't care why your leaving, they don't ask. :) Goodbye facebook!

Mom said...

Well stated Lindsey!

Jacki said...

You are a strong woman. I have been thinking about this subject a lot. I don't think I will ever delete my facebook. It might sound odd, but there is some comfort knowing that if I was going to some random place that maybe, maybe one of my facebook "friends" might be/know about, I could just send them over a message and ask about different things. Though I really only keep up with a handful of my friends via facebook, I like to know I could contact the others, just in case...

Anonymous said...

I found this blog post by googling "Why I deleted my facebook account" because I just posted the same thing. LOL Have you stayed off? And did you actually delete it completely? Because they try to make it a little hard... my husband deleted his a month ago and they said it would be gone in 14 days but it was still there. Sigh.
Anyway I'm a horse-lady mom with little ones too--funny how I found your blog by googling about facebook.

Vlahell said...

Pretty clever decision, in fact facebook can be very obsessive in your life, because it's like being a voyeur on the people's (not interested) life. On the other hand I think it's important to stay in facebook, probably because his penetration everywhere.