Saturday, September 01, 2007

In his defense

Up until a few months ago, when someone asked me what my husband did for a living, the answer that he built websites was easy. But after Blake's recent career change, the answer to that question got a little more complicated.

I usually start off by saying he is a freelance writer. This of course leads to more questions like who and what does he write for. It gets a little sticky at this point because as soon as I say he writes about video games, I get a "Oh, you're married to one of those guys" look. About 99% of the time the other person (especially if it's a woman) proceeds to tell me about how their husband was addicted or how they had a friend who married someone who played all the time and how horrible it was. This is where I try to pipe in by saying that Blake doesn't play video games that much and that he really just writes more about the business of them but that's when I usually get the, "Yeah, you're in major denial because anyone that plays video games is bad look" and I give up.

Yes, Blake plays video games. He buys them, plays them for about 10 minutes and then sells them on eBay. In fact, I have some great memories of falling asleep on the couch watching Blake play a game he is really excited about. But I can honestly say that since we have been married, I have never felt second to video games. Never. I think it's cute how he tries to get me involved by buying games that he thinks I will like. And believe it or not, he's been successful in finding a few that I actually enjoy.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that not all gamers are obsessed nerds who sit with a controller in their hand all day. There can be a balance and Blake has definitely found it. Just like anything else in life, moderation is the key.

I just wanted to set the record straight.


Blake said...

You get a 1up for this post, Lindsey. :)

Fiona said...

Ok, I MUST comment on this one. My husband, Nathan, loves games...especially computer games. Lately he has spent late hours downstairs playing Civilization III. I have really struggled with this issue. I, personally, find all kinds of video and computer games to be boring and sometimes they literally make me sick to my stomach from the motion. I can't understand why he likes them so much. However, I have had to step back and look at it from his perspective. He will never understand why I love music, singing, and dancing so much, but he doesn't get after me for all of the hours I spend singing in choirs and shows or playing the piano! So why should I get after him for having his computer game time to unwind after a long day at work?

Sometimes I like to play the "desperate housewife" card and blame it all on the video games. But the fact of the matter is, I have it a lot better than so many wives out there whose husbands are more like roommates. I think Nathan is a great husband and I'm lucky to have him, video games and all!